We all encounter it – the craziness of the holidays. They’re upon us, and we wanted to share a few tips for looking after yourself and your loved ones these holidays. The world around you will speed up and there’ll be pressures and stresses that come around each year about this time. Maybe do a few of these things this year to stay healthy, and make your holidays better!
It is common for couples to wonder whether they should try to “change” one another. At times, partners are merely making simple requests of one another, such as asking for a hand with the groceries, but other times, it may seem like they’re asking their partner to change part of their personality. Couple relationships are a delicate balance between accepting our partners for who they are and seeking to get our own “needs” met. The best relationships are the ones in which there is unconditional acceptance, so where do our needs and desires (or even simple requests) come in? It’s tough to know when to do what: when to accept our partners as they are and when to ask for what we want. How do we balance these apparently contradictory ways of being in relationships?
Eating Disorders are multi-faceted, complex, and affect both the brain and the body. Unfortunately, they are also highly lethal (the most lethal of all mental health issues) and the outcomes for full recovery become worse as time goes by without an adequate treatment team. In some cases, seeing a therapist who is versed in some parts of an Eating Disorder is adequate treatment; however, in the majority of cases it is best to see someone who knows all of the complexities of an Eating Disorder (or ED) and the outcomes for full recovery are much better.
Which one is the right fit for you?
Whether you are struggling with an Eating Disorder or disordered eating, it’s easy to wonder what the next step is…is it therapy or is it coaching? This article explains the differences between therapy and coaching for these issues to help determine which one is the best fit for you.
Disordered eating falls on a spectrum. All of us struggle to eat in a way that is nourishing to our bodies and minds from time-to-time. Research suggests that up to 50% of the population demonstrate problematic or disordered relationships with food, body, and exercise. Rates of clinical Eating Disorders are much lower, however, estimated to account for 1% to 3% of the general population. Disordered eating happens when our eating habits interfere with our health, our goals, or our ability to form relationships and feel good in our own skin. Eating Disorders have distinct features that occur on a consistent basis in an extreme manner (you can check out NEDA.com for more information). When a person struggles with disordered eating, coaching can help the person to rewire their brains, focus on goals, and create better eating habits. When a person struggles with an Eating Disorder, therapy can help the client work on the root causes, address the relational dynamics, and process what is needed for them to gain new skills and develop an identity outside of the disorder.
“Is this normal?”
“What’s wrong with us?”
“Where are we going?”
These questions often plague individuals in emotionally committed relationships when they run into issues that, on the surface, seem impossible to overcome. What is it that finally propels couples to take the step into couples therapy? Many couples decide to enter couples therapy as a final step before separation or divorce. Others just hit points in their relationship when they experience frequent and unsolvable conflict.