Mass Shootings: How to Talk to Our Children

By Krista Reed, LSCSW

On October 13, 2017, I was in Las Vegas for a training that was across the street from the Mandalay Bay.  Approximately one week prior, a man opened fire on country festival, Route 91 Harvest, from a broken window at Mandalay Bay.  58 people were killed, 422 people suffered injuries from gunfire, and another 851 individuals had injuries as a result of the attack (Andone & Sidner, 2018) During my lunch break, I decided to walk over to the hotel and pay my respects.  I briefly spoke with a police officer who appeared exhausted and was fighting back tears, and he pointed me in the direction of the memorials.  I recall standing at the Mandalay Bay staring at the festival stages and décor, which had not been taken down, and breaking down in tears.  Even being there a week later was intense; Las Vegas had never been so quiet.  It was clear from that moment, the city would never be the same. Read More

Practicing Empathy and Differentiation When Helping

By Joel Ybarra, LCMFT

Some would say the largest part of being able to help others is empathizing with them, but it’s important we’re able to do this in a helpful and constructive way. Empathy is often defined as being able to see through another’s eyes. It’s amazing – we’re able to “read” and recreate the internal experience of another within ourselves by observing their facial expressions and imagining what we might feel in their place. You can see how it may be easy to get too emotionally involved. Read More

6 Tips for Handling the Holiday Hullabaloo

We all encounter it – the craziness of the holidays. They’re upon us, and we wanted to share a few tips for looking after yourself and your loved ones these holidays. The world around you will speed up and there’ll be pressures and stresses that come around each year about this time. Maybe do a few of these things this year to stay healthy, and make your holidays better! Read More

Should I Try to Change My Partner? The Paradox in Couple Relationships

By Joel Ybarra, LCMFT

It is common for couples to wonder whether they should try to “change” one another. At times, partners are merely making simple requests of one another, such as asking for a hand with the groceries, but other times, it may seem like they’re asking their partner to change part of their personality. Couple relationships are a delicate balance between accepting our partners for who they are and seeking to get our own “needs” met. The best relationships are the ones in which there is unconditional acceptance, so where do our needs and desires (or even simple requests) come in? It’s tough to know when to do what: when to accept our partners as they are and when to ask for what we want. How do we balance these apparently contradictory ways of being in relationships? Read More

Why It’s Important To See An Eating Disorder Specialist

By Jenny Helms, TLMFT

Eating Disorders are multi-faceted, complex, and affect both the brain and the body. Unfortunately, they are also highly lethal (the most lethal of all mental health issues) and the outcomes for full recovery become worse as time goes by without an adequate treatment team. In some cases, seeing a therapist who is versed in some parts of an Eating Disorder is adequate treatment; however, in the majority of cases it is best to see someone who knows all of the complexities of an Eating Disorder (or ED) and the outcomes for full recovery are much better. Read More